How To Make Friends And Connect With People In Challenging Times
在逆境中如何与人交朋友并建立牢固的关系。
It can be difficult to make friends living in a big city, especially when you don’t know many people.
生活在一个大城市里是很难交到朋友的，尤其是当你还不认识很多人的时候。
Over years of experience and studying social skills, I discovered that it’s possible to make friends without even trying. There are just a few
strategies
that you have to use on a
consistent
basis.
根据多年的经验以及对社交技能的研究，我发现其实你甚至能毫不费力地交到朋友。这里有一些你一直可以用得上的策略。
That’s what I’ll outline a few simple steps.
在这里我将列出几个简单的步骤。
1. Be seen without trying to get attention.
不刻意地引人注意也能获得他人的注意。
You don’t have to say anything
witty
or interesting to get people’s attention, all you have to do is place yourself in environments where people will see you.
你不必说诙谐或有趣的事情来吸引人们的注意，你所要做的只是将你自己置于人们能注意到的地方。
This can be done anywhere you go, such as the supermarket or your yoga studio.
这可以在你去的任何地方奏效，比如超市或是瑜伽馆。
2. Use the power of listening.
使用倾听的力量。
There’s an interesting
phenomenon
that occurs when you listen to other people, they’ll keep talking. Just keep giving them good eye contact and show with your body language that you care.
有一个有趣的现象，当你听别人说话时，他们会一直说话。只要和他们保持良好的眼神接触，并用你的身体语言显示出你对他们的关心。
倾听是一种建立信任和魅力的途径。
3. Think about what you can give to the other people.
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